there are way many speculations going around this gave me the urge to help clear the air.Most resent that caught my attention was a group a few nice people having random talks on my way home (it was just an overheard and so am not very sure if it was a debate or just a talk)the topic was about girls often liking bad boys.
I think i might help reason around this :baring in mind a m a The those spoken about gal:
Yes and no…
Before we can really answer this question, we need to first clarify a few things.
I promise I’ll break down exactly what it is about “bad boys” that women find irresistible, but before I do, I need to make sure we’re all on the same page.
First and foremost, let’s just clear up the pervasive myth that ALL woman are attracted to a specific type of man. They’re not.
Different women are attracted to different traits in a man based on their societal conditioning, past experiences, and predispositions.
What attracts one woman might repel another and vice versa. Some women do in fact fall for “Nice Guys” and some fall for “Bad Boys”.The only axiom of female attraction is that women are attracted to strong high status men. But even with this definition we encounter a problem…Because the very definition of status varies from woman to woman and culture to culture.
1. Women Are Attracted to Men Who Are Confident
Plain and simple… Confidence is sexy.
Women are deeply attracted to men who are sure of themselves, men who know what they want, why the want it, and are willing to do what is necessary to get it.
A man who is unsure of himself, indecisive, and dependent on other people for validation is seen as weak and unfit inside of the mating game.
Typically, nice guys lack confidence.
They place all of their self worth on the women they sleep with. They will do and say anything to please those around them instead of staying true to who they are with the visceral confidence that women crave.
This is what makes the bad boy so irresistible.
He doesn’t give a shit whether you like him or not. He’s confident in who he is and what he stands for.
Although bad boys typically take this trait to an extreme and border on arrogance and blatant narcissism, there’s a valuable lesson to be learned for nice guys.
Women crave men who are certain of themselves. They crave men with confidence who are unwavering in their self belief and aren’t afraid to speak their truths.
That is what makes bad boys so sexy and what you should seek to emulate in your own interactions with the fairer sex.
2. Women Are Attracted to Men With Low Levels of Agreeableness
This might sound a little bit counter-intuitive, but let me explain.
Most men think that women want a man who will basically act like a lap dog.
A man who’s favorite words are “Yes dear” or “Whatever you want love”.
But nothing could be further from the truth. Women want a man who has the confidence in himself and in his mission (more on that in a second) to be disagreeable and challenge the status quo.
If you ever go out to a bar, you’ll notice that the guys who tend to leave with the most attractive women (the bad boys) rarely, if ever, act agreeably.
They’ll stay behind at a bar when everyone else is moving venues or they’ll move venues when others want to stay.
They’ll share unpopular opinions, call people out on their bullshit, and generally say all of the things that everyone else is thinking but too scared to say.
This isn’t to say that you should be disagreeable for the sake of being an asshole — You shoudln’t.
But rather that women are attracted to men who are willing to go their own way.
So speak up about your unpopular opinions. Own your desires. And don’t let the whims and thoughts of other people push you around like a leaf in the wind.
If you want to do something or don’t want to do something, speak up. If you disagree with someone in conversation, own it. If a girl you’re talking with (even one you’re attracted to) starts acting in an inappropriate or annoying way, call her out on it.
Most women won’t admit this, but I can’t count the number of times I’ve seen a guy take a girl home or end up in a relationship with a woman because he was the only man with the courage to say, “You’re being ridiculous! Chill out already”.
3. Women Are Attracted to Men with a Masculine Edge
When you think “Bad boy”, what images come to mind?
Leather jackets, motorcycles, tattoos, big muscles, Marlboro cigarettes, beards, and a few facial scars from one too many fist fights… Right?
Women are attracted to bad boys not BECAUSE they are ass holes or womanizers, but because these men tend to have a more masculine edge in a soft world.
They’re the types of guys who know how to handle themselves, are familiar with pain, and capable of excelling in adverse situations.
This doesn’t mean you need to start smoking, get a tattoo sleeve, and buy a Harley… hardly.
But you can emulate this character trait by adding a more masculine edge to your personality.
Pick up a combat sport like Muay Thai boxing or Brazilian Jujitsu. Develop “manly” interests like hunting, restoring old cars, or doing other activities that involve manual effort.
Get off your ass away from the TV and into LIFE.
Women aren’t attracted to “bad boys” because they’re bad, but because they’re living an interesting and exciting life.
Bad boys are many things… Boring is not one of them.
4. Women Are Attracted to Men Who Are Living on Purpose
One of the character traits that is ubiquitous among “bad boys” is that they are living with purpose.
Admittedly, most bad boys aren’t trying to save the world, feed starving children, or end the climate change crisis…
Rather, they are on a purpose to live their life to the fullest, to enjoy as much adventure, excitement, and debauchery as possible before their premature demise at the age of 40 (likely from a cocaine overdose).
However, they have an important lesson to teach us.
Women crave men of purpose. Men who are living interesting lives and have a mission beyond clocking in and out at their 9-5 and then sedating themselves with porn, alcohol, and TV until they wake up and do it all over again.
Your purpose doesn’t have to be crazy, but you need to have SOMETHING that drives you and gets you out of bed in the morning.
Whether it’s a creative pursuit like art or music (there’s a reason musicians and artists are portrayed as ladies’ men), a business, world travel, or philanthropy, you need to find a purpose to devote your life to and share that purpose with everyone inside of your life. Purpose is sexy.
5. Women Are Attracted to Men Who Are Unique
And finally, women are attracted to bad boys, above all else, because they are unique.
“Nice guys” are common. They’re normal, bland, and vannilla.
Every guy and his younger brother can be a nice pandering suck up who tells a woman how beautiful she is, buys her flowers, and treats her like a princess.
But it takes a man with grit and courage to challenge the status quo.
Bad boys are attractive because they are different. They go left when nice guys and average men go right. They speak up when everyone else is silent.
They’re edgy and different when everyone else is dying to fit in. And that is why they are successful with women.You don’t need to be an asshole to get the girl of your dreams, but you need to be different, you need to be unique, and you need to be memorable.
Because at the end of the day, the dating game follows the economic law of supply and demand.
When the supply is high (and trust me, there’s a never ending supply of boring nice guys) the demand is low.
And when the supply is low (as it is with “bad boys” and grounded men), the demand goes through the roof.
As always, stay grounded.