Are you really fine?

A friend passed ,not really a close friend,but anyway  i felt bad,i was in morning and sad

i happened to pass by a coffee shop and the attendant was like

HI, how are u
my reply was
hi, am fine, how are you
his reply was:
am fine too welcome!
the exchange of pleasantries was ok because that is what normal append but after taking my position ofcoz next to the window i happened to reflect a pone how much a lie i said
the question was am i really fine?but what was my reply?
deep down inside you know you are not fine why lie?

how many of us lie?
why do we lie?
how many are ready to take in the intensity of the truth if its ever said?
could it be the reason why we lie?
the cause of death was suicide meaning at some point she felt she could take no more and that was her solution to it.

how many people mate her am not sure and from the believe in our African culture then saying Hi is a must and to all those hi her response was “am fine”
do we love ourselves enough to speak up when we aint ok?
do we give our loved ones an environment for them not to be ok if they aint?

let your loved ones know you love then no matter how ugly their truth is!



sway me

Sway me
Curve to curve
Dance me with your love
Dance me with your masculine

Burning the dance with tango love
Curve the move curving my line
Dance through the mood
And be my homeward bound

Hit the beat trump the rhythm
Move to move our curving desire
Dance me through gather me safely
Dance me My Love
Dance me to the end of love
And I’ll dance you
With the love that I have burning for you .


Life in a prejudice of human hands
Could never gaze
in a glimpse of darkness
Peering the light soring the eyes
uncertainty what beauty ahead

Life ….
Life as it’s life was and is
what’s yesterday remain
what today avail
what tomorrow uncertain

The merciful of GOD
The angel of grace
Brazing the darkness
to the light of hope and faith
Alas let the pain whiz away
let the darkness shade it’s glimpse

Tears could never heals
Flowers could never bloom
The beauty of life live within
The love of GOD that let us live .

Song to me!

I celebrate myself, and sing myself,
And what I assume you shall assume,
For every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you.
I loafe and invite my soul,
I lean and loafe at my ease observing a spear of summer grass.
My tongue, every atom of my blood, form’d from this soil, this air,
Born here of parents born here from parents the same, and their parents the same,
I, now 22  years old in perfect health begin,
Hoping to cease not till death.
Creeds and schools in abeyance,
Retiring back a while sufficed at what they are, but never forgotten,
I harbor for good or bad, I permit to speak at every hazard,
Nature without check with original energy.
Houses and rooms are full of perfumes, the shelves are crowded with perfumes,
I breathe the fragrance myself and know it and like it,
The distillation would intoxicate me also, but I shall not let it.
The atmosphere is not a perfume, it has no taste of the distillation, it is odorless,
It is for my mouth forever, I am in love with it,
I will go to the bank by the wood and become undisguised and naked,
I am mad for it to be in contact with me.
The smoke of my own breath,
Echoes, ripples, buzz’d whispers, love-root, silk-thread, crotch and vine,
My respiration and inspiration, the beating of my heart, the passing of blood and air through my lungs,
The sniff of green leaves and dry leaves, and of the shore and dark-color’d sea-rocks, and of hay in the barn,
The sound of the belch’d words of my voice loos’d to the eddies of the wind,
A few light kisses, a few embraces, a reaching around of arms,
The play of shine and shade on the trees as the supple boughs wag,
The delight alone or in the rush of the streets, or along the fields and hill-sides,
The feeling of health, the full-noon trill, the song of me rising from bed and meeting the sun.
Have you reckon’d a thousand acres much? have you reckon’d the earth much?
Have you practis’d so long to learn to read?
Have you felt so proud to get at the meaning of poems?
Stop this day and night with me and you shall possess the origin of all poems,
You shall possess the good of the earth and sun, (there are millions of suns left,)
You shall no longer take things at second or third hand, nor look through the eyes of the dead, nor feed on the spectres in books,
You shall not look through my eyes either, nor take things from me,
You shall listen to all sides and filter them from your self.
I have heard what the talkers were talking, the talk of the beginning and the end,
But I do not talk of the beginning or the end.
There was never any more inception than there is now,
Nor any more youth or age than there is now,
And will never be any more perfection than there is now,
Nor any more heaven or hell than there is now.
Urge and urge and urge,
Always the procreant urge of the world.
Out of the dimness opposite equals advance, always substance and increase, always sex,
Always a knit of identity, always distinction, always a breed of life.
To elaborate is no avail, learn’d and unlearn’d feel that it is so.
Sure as the most certain sure, plumb in the uprights, well entretied, braced in the beams,
Stout as a horse, affectionate, haughty, electrical,
I and this mystery here we stand.
Clear and sweet is my soul, and clear and sweet is all that is not my soul.

Dis poem

Dis poem, shall speak of the wretched sea
That washed ships to these shores
Of mothers cryin’ for their young swallowed up by the sea
Dis poem shall say nothin’ new
Dis poem shall speak of time
Time unlimited time undefined
Dis poem shall call names
Names like Lumumba, Kenyatta, Nkrumah
Hannibal, Akenaton, Malcolm, Garvey, Haile Selassie
Dis poem is vexed about apartheid, rascism, fascism
The Klu Klux Klan riots in Brixton Atlanta, Jim Jones
Dis poem is revoltin’ against first world second world
Third world division man made decision
Dis poem is like all the rest
Dis poem will not be amongst great literary works
Will not be recited by poetry enthusiasts
Will not be quoted by politicians nor men of religion
Dis poem s knives bombs guns blood fire
Blazin’ for freedom, yes dis poem is a drum
Ashanti, Mau Mau, Ibo Yoruba, Nyahbingi warriors
Uhuru uhuru, uhuru Namibia,
Uhuru Soweto, uhuru Afrika
Dis poem will not change things
Dis poem need to be changed
Dis poem is a rebirth of a people
Arizin’ awaking understandin’
Dis poem speak is speakin’ have spoken
Dis poem shall continue even when poets have stopped writin’
Dis poem shall survive you me it shall linger in history
In your mind, in time forever
Dis poem is time only time will tell
Dis poem is still not written, dis poem has no poet
Dis poem is just a part of the story
His-story her-story our-story the story still untold
Dis poem is now ringin talkin irritatin
Makin’ you want to stop it, but dis poem will not stop
Dis poem is long cannot be short
Dis poem cannot be tamed cannot be blamed
The story is still not told about dis poem
Dis poem is old new
Dis poem was copied from the Bible your prayer book
Playboy magazine the N.Y. Times readers digest
The CIA files the KGB files, dis poem is no secret
Dis poem shall be called boring stupid senseless
Dis poem is watchin’ you tryin to make sense from dis poem
Dis poem is messin’ up your brains
Makin you want to stop listenin’ to dis poem
But you shall not stop listenin’ to dis poem
You need to know what will be said next in dis poem
Dis poem shall disappoint you, because
Dis poem is to be continued in your mind in your mind
In your mind your mind

Lets talk!

OK i get annoyed at times…do you wanna know why? there are some (oh God! ) i don’t know what to call them in the politest way possible!

Do people ever get to understand that human beings are complex (huge understatement), and revealing our personality is a monumental challenge but all in all from the basics we know we have extroverts who are are talkative and outgoing and introverts who are are quiet and private

Am an introvert and so a’ll speak for ‘us” i know there are times we exhibit the traits for extroverts i don’t know in some occasions, situations, with some people that magic just happens when we are around them BUT that doesn’t make us them it was just for a short while and am back to being me please understand .

Interestingly when back to default state there is a face we pull 

RBF or better known as  is a facial condition in which the person’s face is.. resting.They’re not smiling, not frowning, not in conversation. But yet they appear annoyed or angry. Myself included.

People will ask what’s wrong? or are you mad at me? when, actually, we’re just thinking.

But whatever you do.. don’t say Smile! You’ll look so much prettier! because that will make us ~actually~ angry.

please understand!


Wanna know why?!

there are way many speculations going around this gave me the urge  to help clear the air.Most resent that caught my attention was  a group a few nice people having random talks on my way home (it was just an overheard and so am not very sure if it was a debate or just a talk)the topic was about girls often liking bad boys.

I think i might help reason around this :baring in mind a m a The those spoken about gal:

Yes and no…

Before we can really answer this question, we need to first clarify a few things.

I promise I’ll break down exactly what it is about “bad boys” that women find irresistible, but before I do, I need to make sure we’re all on the same page.

First and foremost, let’s just clear up the pervasive myth that ALL woman are attracted to a specific type of man. They’re not.

Different women are attracted to different traits in a man based on their societal conditioning, past experiences, and predispositions.

What attracts one woman might repel another and vice versa. Some women do in fact fall for “Nice Guys” and some fall for “Bad Boys”.The only axiom of female attraction is that women are attracted to strong high status men. But even with this definition we encounter a problem…Because the very definition of status varies from woman to woman and culture to culture.

1. Women Are Attracted to Men Who Are Confident

Plain and simple… Confidence is sexy.

Women are deeply attracted to men who are sure of themselves, men who know what they want, why the want it, and are willing to do what is necessary to get it.

A man who is unsure of himself, indecisive, and dependent on other people for validation is seen as weak and unfit inside of the mating game.

Typically, nice guys lack confidence.

They place all of their self worth on the women they sleep with. They will do and say anything to please those around them instead of staying true to who they are with the visceral confidence that women crave.

This is what makes the bad boy so irresistible.

He doesn’t give a shit whether you like him or not. He’s confident in who he is and what he stands for.

Although bad boys typically take this trait to an extreme and border on arrogance and blatant narcissism, there’s a valuable lesson to be learned for nice guys.

Women crave men who are certain of themselves. They crave men with confidence who are unwavering in their self belief and aren’t afraid to speak their truths.

That is what makes bad boys so sexy and what you should seek to emulate in your own interactions with the fairer sex.

2. Women Are Attracted to Men With Low Levels of Agreeableness

This might sound a little bit counter-intuitive, but let me explain.

Most men think that women want a man who will basically act like a lap dog.

A man who’s favorite words are “Yes dear” or “Whatever you want love”.

But nothing could be further from the truth. Women want a man who has the confidence in himself and in his mission (more on that in a second) to be disagreeable and challenge the status quo.

If you ever go out to a bar, you’ll notice that the guys who tend to leave with the most attractive women (the bad boys) rarely, if ever, act agreeably.

They’ll stay behind at a bar when everyone else is moving venues or they’ll move venues when others want to stay.

They’ll share unpopular opinions, call people out on their bullshit, and generally say all of the things that everyone else is thinking but too scared to say.

This isn’t to say that you should be disagreeable for the sake of being an asshole — You shoudln’t.

But rather that women are attracted to men who are willing to go their own way.

So speak up about your unpopular opinions. Own your desires. And don’t let the whims and thoughts of other people push you around like a leaf in the wind.

If you want to do something or don’t want to do something, speak up. If you disagree with someone in conversation, own it. If a girl you’re talking with (even one you’re attracted to) starts acting in an inappropriate or annoying way, call her out on it.

Most women won’t admit this, but I can’t count the number of times I’ve seen a guy take a girl home or end up in a relationship with a woman because he was the only man with the courage to say, “You’re being ridiculous! Chill out already”.

3. Women Are Attracted to Men with a Masculine Edge

When you think “Bad boy”, what images come to mind?

Leather jackets, motorcycles, tattoos, big muscles, Marlboro cigarettes, beards, and a few facial scars from one too many fist fights… Right?


Women are attracted to bad boys not BECAUSE they are ass holes or womanizers, but because these men tend to have a more masculine edge in a soft world.

They’re the types of guys who know how to handle themselves, are familiar with pain, and capable of excelling in adverse situations.

This doesn’t mean you need to start smoking, get a tattoo sleeve, and buy a Harley… hardly.

But you can emulate this character trait by adding a more masculine edge to your personality.

Pick up a combat sport like Muay Thai boxing or Brazilian Jujitsu. Develop “manly” interests like hunting, restoring old cars, or doing other activities that involve manual effort.

Get off your ass away from the TV and into LIFE.

Women aren’t attracted to “bad boys” because they’re bad, but because they’re living an interesting and exciting life.

Bad boys are many things… Boring is not one of them.

4. Women Are Attracted to Men Who Are Living on Purpose

One of the character traits that is ubiquitous among “bad boys” is that they are living with purpose.

Admittedly, most bad boys aren’t trying to save the world, feed starving children, or end the climate change crisis…

Rather, they are on a purpose to live their life to the fullest, to enjoy as much adventure, excitement, and debauchery as possible before their premature demise at the age of 40 (likely from a cocaine overdose).

However, they have an important lesson to teach us.

Women crave men of purpose. Men who are living interesting lives and have a mission beyond clocking in and out at their 9-5 and then sedating themselves with porn, alcohol, and TV until they wake up and do it all over again.

Your purpose doesn’t have to be crazy, but you need to have SOMETHING that drives you and gets you out of bed in the morning.

Whether it’s a creative pursuit like art or music (there’s a reason musicians and artists are portrayed as ladies’ men), a business, world travel, or philanthropy, you need to find a purpose to devote your life to and share that purpose with everyone inside of your life.            Purpose is sexy.

5. Women Are Attracted to Men Who Are Unique

And finally, women are attracted to bad boys, above all else, because they are unique.

“Nice guys” are common. They’re normal, bland, and vannilla.

Every guy and his younger brother can be a nice pandering suck up who tells a woman how beautiful she is, buys her flowers, and treats her like a princess.

But it takes a man with grit and courage to challenge the status quo.

Bad boys are attractive because they are different. They go left when nice guys and average men go right. They speak up when everyone else is silent.

They’re edgy and different when everyone else is dying to fit in.   And that is why they are successful with women.You don’t need to be an asshole to get the girl of your dreams, but you need to be different, you need to be unique, and you need to be memorable.

Because at the end of the day, the dating game follows the economic law of supply and demand.

When the supply is high (and trust me, there’s a never ending supply of boring nice guys) the demand is low.

And when the supply is low (as it is with “bad boys” and grounded men), the demand goes through the roof.

As always, stay grounded.