OK i get annoyed at times…do you wanna know why? there are some (oh God! ) i don’t know what to call them in the politest way possible!
Do people ever get to understand that human beings are complex (huge understatement), and revealing our personality is a monumental challenge but all in all from the basics we know we have extroverts who are are talkative and outgoing and introverts who are are quiet and private
Am an introvert and so a’ll speak for ‘us” i know there are times we exhibit the traits for extroverts i don’t know in some occasions, situations, with some people that magic just happens when we are around them BUT that doesn’t make us them it was just for a short while and am back to being me please understand .
Interestingly when back to default state there is a face we pull
RBF or better known as is a facial condition in which the person’s face is.. resting.They’re not smiling, not frowning, not in conversation. But yet they appear annoyed or angry. Myself included.
People will ask what’s wrong? or are you mad at me? when, actually, we’re just thinking.
But whatever you do.. don’t say Smile! You’ll look so much prettier! because that will make us ~actually~ angry.
there are way many speculations going around this gave me the urge to help clear the air.Most resent that caught my attention was a group a few nice people having random talks on my way home (it was just an overheard and so am not very sure if it was a debate or just a talk)the topic was about girls often liking bad boys.
I think i might help reason around this :baring in mind a m a The those spoken about gal:
Yes and no…
Before we can really answer this question, we need to first clarify a few things.
I promise I’ll break down exactly what it is about “bad boys” that women find irresistible, but before I do, I need to make sure we’re all on the same page.
First and foremost, let’s just clear up the pervasive myth that ALL woman are attracted to a specific type of man. They’re not.
Different women are attracted to different traits in a man based on their societal conditioning, past experiences, and predispositions.
What attracts one woman might repel another and vice versa. Some women do in fact fall for “Nice Guys” and some fall for “Bad Boys”.The only axiom of female attraction is that women are attracted to strong high status men. But even with this definition we encounter a problem…Because the very definition of status varies from woman to woman and culture to culture.
1. Women Are Attracted to Men Who Are Confident
Plain and simple… Confidence is sexy.
Women are deeply attracted to men who are sure of themselves, men who know what they want, why the want it, and are willing to do what is necessary to get it.
A man who is unsure of himself, indecisive, and dependent on other people for validation is seen as weak and unfit inside of the mating game.
Typically, nice guys lack confidence.
They place all of their self worth on the women they sleep with. They will do and say anything to please those around them instead of staying true to who they are with the visceral confidence that women crave.
This is what makes the bad boy so irresistible.
He doesn’t give a shit whether you like him or not. He’s confident in who he is and what he stands for.
Although bad boys typically take this trait to an extreme and border on arrogance and blatant narcissism, there’s a valuable lesson to be learned for nice guys.
Women crave men who are certain of themselves. They crave men with confidence who are unwavering in their self belief and aren’t afraid to speak their truths.
That is what makes bad boys so sexy and what you should seek to emulate in your own interactions with the fairer sex.
2. Women Are Attracted to Men With Low Levels of Agreeableness
This might sound a little bit counter-intuitive, but let me explain.
Most men think that women want a man who will basically act like a lap dog.
A man who’s favorite words are “Yes dear” or “Whatever you want love”.
But nothing could be further from the truth. Women want a man who has the confidence in himself and in his mission (more on that in a second) to be disagreeable and challenge the status quo.
If you ever go out to a bar, you’ll notice that the guys who tend to leave with the most attractive women (the bad boys) rarely, if ever, act agreeably.
They’ll stay behind at a bar when everyone else is moving venues or they’ll move venues when others want to stay.
They’ll share unpopular opinions, call people out on their bullshit, and generally say all of the things that everyone else is thinking but too scared to say.
This isn’t to say that you should be disagreeable for the sake of being an asshole — You shoudln’t.
But rather that women are attracted to men who are willing to go their own way.
So speak up about your unpopular opinions. Own your desires. And don’t let the whims and thoughts of other people push you around like a leaf in the wind.
If you want to do something or don’t want to do something, speak up. If you disagree with someone in conversation, own it. If a girl you’re talking with (even one you’re attracted to) starts acting in an inappropriate or annoying way, call her out on it.
Most women won’t admit this, but I can’t count the number of times I’ve seen a guy take a girl home or end up in a relationship with a woman because he was the only man with the courage to say, “You’re being ridiculous! Chill out already”.
3. Women Are Attracted to Men with a Masculine Edge
When you think “Bad boy”, what images come to mind?
Leather jackets, motorcycles, tattoos, big muscles, Marlboro cigarettes, beards, and a few facial scars from one too many fist fights… Right?
Women are attracted to bad boys not BECAUSE they are ass holes or womanizers, but because these men tend to have a more masculine edge in a soft world.
They’re the types of guys who know how to handle themselves, are familiar with pain, and capable of excelling in adverse situations.
This doesn’t mean you need to start smoking, get a tattoo sleeve, and buy a Harley… hardly.
But you can emulate this character trait by adding a more masculine edge to your personality.
Pick up a combat sport like Muay Thai boxing or Brazilian Jujitsu. Develop “manly” interests like hunting, restoring old cars, or doing other activities that involve manual effort.
Get off your ass away from the TV and into LIFE.
Women aren’t attracted to “bad boys” because they’re bad, but because they’re living an interesting and exciting life.
Bad boys are many things… Boring is not one of them.
4. Women Are Attracted to Men Who Are Living on Purpose
One of the character traits that is ubiquitous among “bad boys” is that they are living with purpose.
Admittedly, most bad boys aren’t trying to save the world, feed starving children, or end the climate change crisis…
Rather, they are on a purpose to live their life to the fullest, to enjoy as much adventure, excitement, and debauchery as possible before their premature demise at the age of 40 (likely from a cocaine overdose).
However, they have an important lesson to teach us.
Women crave men of purpose. Men who are living interesting lives and have a mission beyond clocking in and out at their 9-5 and then sedating themselves with porn, alcohol, and TV until they wake up and do it all over again.
Your purpose doesn’t have to be crazy, but you need to have SOMETHING that drives you and gets you out of bed in the morning.
Whether it’s a creative pursuit like art or music (there’s a reason musicians and artists are portrayed as ladies’ men), a business, world travel, or philanthropy, you need to find a purpose to devote your life to and share that purpose with everyone inside of your life. Purpose is sexy.
5. Women Are Attracted to Men Who Are Unique
And finally, women are attracted to bad boys, above all else, because they are unique.
“Nice guys” are common. They’re normal, bland, and vannilla.
Every guy and his younger brother can be a nice pandering suck up who tells a woman how beautiful she is, buys her flowers, and treats her like a princess.
But it takes a man with grit and courage to challenge the status quo.
Bad boys are attractive because they are different. They go left when nice guys and average men go right. They speak up when everyone else is silent.
They’re edgy and different when everyone else is dying to fit in. And that is why they are successful with women.You don’t need to be an asshole to get the girl of your dreams, but you need to be different, you need to be unique, and you need to be memorable.
Because at the end of the day, the dating game follows the economic law of supply and demand.
When the supply is high (and trust me, there’s a never ending supply of boring nice guys) the demand is low.
And when the supply is low (as it is with “bad boys” and grounded men), the demand goes through the roof.
As always, stay grounded.
- Don’t be normal. Normal people are overrated. Be crazy.
- Our body is made up of five elements : earth, water, fire, air and space. Make sure you focus on “earth”. In simple words, be down to earth.
- Don’t read motivational quotes just for the sake of making them your whatsapp and Facebook status. PLZ APPLY
- 99. 99% of people don’t marry their first crush. Please stop stressing.
- If your parents believe in your dreams it is your moral responsibility to prove them that they are right and if they doubt on your abilities (some parents fails to understand this due to excessive attention to the social norms instead their own child) then it is a moral obligation on you to help them on being on the right side. Because parents are never wrong
- Life doesn’t stop for anybody, neither for you nor for me. Keep walking
- Say Good Morning – It’s simple but can go a long way. Be the person who says good morning to everyone they see the moment they get in the office. You’d be surprised at how these small gestures can get you on someone’s good side or make their day.
- Dress Well – The way you dress for work on a daily basis impacts your image and how you’re perceived. Try and look sharp more days than not.
- Self-esteem. Don’t throw it under a truck in the name of love for your boyfriend/ girlfriend/ husband or wife. If you don’t respect yourself or draw a line of what is acceptable to you and what is not, nobody else will.
- People are going to disappoint you at some point or the other. Make your peace with it once and for all. Don’t judge them, don’t blame them. They are only human and nobody can meet everybody’s expectations all the time. Look for the good, ignore the bad.
- Don’t let other people to write your life story for you. Chart your own course and make sure YOU are happy with you.
- Never stop moving your paws. Keep going. Stay curious. Grow. Explore.
- Give Love to the people around you and that includes yourself.
- Never let your self-worth be defined by others’attitude towards you. More often than not, the way they treat you is a mere reflection of their values and personality. Nothing more, nothing less.
- Meditation : Just for some time in a day and it can do wonders in life. Just stop from fast moving life and look at your steps once
- Love yourself no matter what ! :
Just Believe and have faith in yourself even you have seen hundreds of failures, even if you have lost many times. Don’t ever give up and always say I am ready ! And It is Possible!
- Don’t stay in a relationship cause you fear being lonely, sometimes loneliness is just a state of the mind.
Stop Caring So Much Life just isn’t that important. It’s a flash in the pan and then we’re gone for good (at least until someone proves otherwise). So just chill out and realize that nothing is really that big of a deal.
- Enjoy an easy life
hi..now his is a crazy topic but hell no we all in a way or the other fall victims not because we choose to but something t o do with our nature in general.
The very best way to learn how to break through procrastination is to learn to motivate yourself and in turn build the right habits into your life.
What? I can learn to motivate myself? This can’t be true, my motivation comes and goes and never seems to stick around at the right time! What can i do
Chill out. Take a deep breather and read on.
That motivation comes and goes is completely normal and human. Even the most successfull people in our society experience this.
That is why we need motivation to get the ball rolling and use this intial spark to build the right habits, patterns and routines into our lives.
Then, and only then is lasting success and change actually possible because motivation is indeed a fleeting thing.
Do you really think athletes such as boxers and bodybuilders are always super stoked to go and train?
Hell, no! Despite doing the sport they love, many atheles often report that they don’t particularly look forward to many of their training sessions.
And who can scold them for it?
Their training can be brutal ans downright intimidating!
Do you really think track and field atheletes look forward to running twenty 200m sprints every day?
Do you really think bodybuilders look forward to hoisting 405lbs on the squat for 12 reps on leg day?
Let me clue you in: No they don’t. And they often actually feel like putting off training!
But they go anyway!
How do they do it!
You see, beating procrastination and drumming up motivation (that is eventually taken over by habit) really comes down to three important strategies.
1. Write down why, when and how you’re going to tackle your tasks
This one is also a very simple, yet highly effective method of getting important tasks done and evetually putting them on habitual autopilot, where going to the gym for example, won’t be such a monumental struggle anymore.
If you’re challenged by not being able to get yourself to do hard tasks, you most likely don’t know why, when and how you are going to do things.
Good that you have pen and paper and have the ability to figure out the answer to these questions in literally 5–10min.
So, why is it important that you finally use your gym memberhsip and get into shape? Why is it important that you start your nutrition plan with the next meal and not next week?
Get really clear on this, and brainstorm at least 10 reasons for why you want to get this area of your life handled once and for all.
As soon as you know why you want to change for the long-term, be sure to get clear on when you are going to start and how.
Again, be as precise as possible.
This is how it could look like (and work really well at getting you activated).
“I want to go to the gym starting tomorrow and want to build it into a habit of going three times a week. My gym days will be on Monday, Wednesday and Friday and I will go at 3.00 pm. I will follow the routine that my personal trainer has given me every time I step unto the gym floor. The most important step though, is making this a habit.”
2. Your goal is to build a habit
Okay, where does all of this lead us?
Well, the end game of all of this, so to speak, is to turn certain, high ROI activites of your life intohabits.
That way you don’t have to come onto Quora every day to rationalize why you are procrastinating on your important tasks (Ask me how I know).
I’ve written about building good habits extensively and encourage you to check out my articles.
You could also pick up the excellent book The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg.
I wish you more that luck!
And let this be the day that you finally break through and do it!
Hello..its been a while writing but av been good ,hope the same applies to you…(haha)
i love food,like i mentioned am a lover of good things,and rice, happens to be one of them…oh my goodness just on the same (am not lazy) though we are allowed to be at times considering how hard we work to put up with all the bills and everything.At the end of the day we are tired and all we wish for is just a cool bath and sleep but hunger would not allow us!!! aggggghhhh!!!now we have to cook, but the idea of ugali,is so draining ,we easily look around for an escape (some left overs maybe)there is nothing but some rice of which it is so white,so plain, so dry,so boring …..Now what
look out for my new learnt way of spicing up that boring left over rice in an easy fun and quick way.
a large onion chopped,1-2 carrots diced small
- 2 green onions, diced small
- 2 cups leftover rice
- 2 eggs
- 1 tablespoon dark soy sauce
- Salt and pepper to taste
In a heated wok, add the vegetable oil.
Add the carrots and bell peppers.
Toss for 3 minutes then add in the rice.
Using a wooden spoon break apart the rice and combine with the veggies.
Create some room, then pour in the eggs.
Scramble the eggs before combining with the rice.
Add in the green onions and soy sauce.
Stir everything to combine.
Taste for seasoning and adjust accordingly.
Serve and enjoy.
pull though your lazy day.
self confidence is very essential but a challenge to most of us i being among-est them.It has been a journey full of mountains to develop at least some confidence in maurine(me) from the body am in to my abilities impact and some many aspects of life i have learnt that: words are very powerful and so…
EXPRESS YOURSELF IN POSITIVE WAY TO BOOST YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE
The selection of words is really important because through words you manifest everything. It is the word which can either set you free or it can enslave you – all depends upon selection and usages of a particular word.
You use words to express yourtherefore always speak well of yourself and use good words to describe you. Keep in mind the words you use to define yourself can either make or break your self-esteem and self-confidence.
You become what you think about most of the time. And you become what you say about yourself. This is why if keep telling yourself that you “can’t do something”, or that you “don’t have what it takes”, you are sure to turn these thoughts into reality for yourself because that is how you see yourself.
The opposite is true as well if you continuously say and think to yourself things like, “I amI love”, soon you will start creating a life you want.
So speak well of yourself and you will start believing you do have what it takes to make and live the life you most want.
Take Care of Your Words!